Day 28 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: What's the single most important lesson you've learned from playing D&D

 Edit: Looks like my last post didn't manifest and I just now noticed.

I didn't start playing D&D in order to learn anything. I play to relax, to socialize, to have fun. I play because it's interesting, it's exciting, it's diversionary. Not to learn a lesson.

But, of course, you learn something from any activity you participate in. Role playing games can teach a number of different lessons. The single most important lesson I've learned from playing D&D? Flexibility.

As a player, you have to flexible when facing the challenges presented to you during play. The obvious answer may not be the one that works. As a DM, you have to be flexible when your players perform some completely off the wall action instead of what you expected them to. In order to set up a session you have to be flexible in order to accommodate everyone's schedule as best you can. And a certain amount of flexibility is useful in bringing the disparate personalities around the table together into a functional gaming group.

Day 27 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: If you had to do it all over again, would you do anything different when you first started gaming

I'm not sure we could have done things much differently. In our relative isolation, there weren't any local game stores to patronize, few, if any, other gaming groups to become involved with, a scarcity of gaming products, and no internet, of course. I don't even think we were aware there were such things as gaming conventions to attend.  

We didn't suffer from the personality clashes that seem to pepper so many of these reminisces, so no regrets there. We were always eager to welcome anyone who showed any interest in the game. I suppose we could have put more effort into recruiting new people. That may be the one thing I would do differently, if given the chance.

All in all, we had a great time, and I remember it fondly. 

Day 26 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: Do you still game with the group that introduced you to the hobby

No. While I am still in touch with 2 of my high school gaming group, neither plays anymore. One of them was part of my current group, but between work related travel and the distance he lives from the rest of us, just can't make it. The other one has abandoned RPGs in favor of an obsession with board games. So I do get to play games with him, just not RPGs.

Day 25 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: Longest running campaign/gaming group you've been in

The longest running D&D campaign I have participated in was probably our high school campaign run by Mike. It lasted almost 2 years. The longest running gaming group I played D&D with was the same high school group as mentioned above. We played together a little over two years.

If we are talking about games other than D&D, it's a close call. The longest running campaign I have participated in was either Robert's first edition Warhammer Fantasy campaign or Art's Amber game. They both lasted about 4 years real time. Robert's Traveller game also lasted that long, but I joined it after it had been running for about a year.

Answering the second part of the question is a bit harder. When does a group quit being the same group? When I started college, none of my high school gaming friends came with me. I got involved with a new group by simply walking up to a guy I didn't know because he had a Player's Handbook under his arm. That group lasted a year, then our DM left to do an internship. Part of that group joined up with a few other people and started playing. A couple of my high school group then started or transferred to the same college and they started playing with us as well. I suppose that is either 3 or 4 groups, though some of the groups shared members. none lasted much more than 2 years.

After college, there were a few of us who still lived close enough together that we could continue gaming together. There are 3 of us who still meet regularly, 1 who comes occasionally, and 1, (who I have been gaming with since high school), who shows up when the stars are right. We have been gaming together for about 28 years, longer for some of us. Along with the remains of my wife's college gaming group, which consists of 3 people as well, and one other occasional person, our current group of regulars have been gaming together for over 18 years.

Day 24 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: First movie that comes to mind that you associate with D&D

Another question that I am not sure how to answer. The only movie that comes to mind is the animated Rankin/Bass movie The Hobbit. Besides the obvious inspiration that D&D owes Tolkien's works, one of my regular high school and college players was a second cousin of mine. He had a copy of the film and had watched it so many times that he had memorized it, songs and all. During a game, he would occasionally break out with a thematically appropriate song. (In college, he had a tendency to sing all of the songs after a night out on the town.)

Edit: I guess that answers yesterday's question as well:)

Day 23 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: First song that comes to mind that you associate with D&D

Hmm... I don't know if I have ever consciously associated a particular song with D&D. I don't use music when I run a game, and I can't remember ever having addressed this topic before.

Day 22 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: First D&D based novel you ever read

(Weekend posting did not occur as planned.)


The first D&D novel I ever read was the first D&D novel, Quag Keep. I have been an Andre Norton fan since a librarian recommended her books to me when I was 11. I am fairly sure that I read it before I actually played D&D.

I haven't made a practice of reading D&D based novels in general. Mostly I've read whatever has happened to cross my path by chance.

Day 21 D&D 40th Anniversay Blog Hop: First time you sold some of your D&D books

The only D&D related item I have ever sold was my Dragon magazine collection. At the time I hadn't played any version of D&D in 10 years or more. My not-yet-then wife was still running the FLGS at the time. She suggested taking the magazines to the store and selling them there.  They were taking up a lot of space, and I hadn't touched them in forever. Honestly, I couldn't think of a good reason not to. It was a little sad to go by the store and watch them disappear day by day. Considering the fact that I eventually lost most of my game collection a few years later, it was just as well that I sold them.

Day 20 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: First non D&D RPG you played

The first RPG I played other than D&D was Gamma World. It was the first edition boxed set, if I remember correctly. We enjoyed it, but didn't play it a lot. The most memorable campaign was one that actually started out as a D&D game, where our arch enemy was a hyper-intelligent gargoyle, Fontaine. When we eventually tracked him down, we discovered that he wasn't a gargoyle at all. Fontaine was a Gamma World mutant who had discovered a portal between the worlds. Naturally, we followed him back to his world in order to put an end to him and his nefarious plans.

Day 19 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: First gamer who just annoyed the hell out of you

I suppose I have been pretty lucky in this regard. I haven't actually had to regularly game with anyone I've found particularly annoying. I have run into gamers at conventions that were a bit hard to take, but that comes with the territory. I can't recall any specifics, though.

Day 18 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: First gaming convention you ever attended

My first gaming convention was a local one. My FLGS used to hold one every year. It didn't exactly have a name, just "The Rusty Scabbard Gaming Convention". (If you have read my previous posts, you know that "The Rusty Scabbard" was the name of my FLGS.) For a local convention, it was pretty nice. There was a large selection of games, and a decent selection of vendors. I enjoyed every year I attended.

In point of fact, the local conventions were so enjoyable that my local college group decided that we would hold our own.  We held it for two years and had a great time. (After that, we lost our faculty sponsor and disbanded.) 

I have attended a variety of other conventions, but not in many years. The heyday of my convention attendance was during the mid '80s through the mid '90s, which included regular visits to GenCon. Of course it was a lot more affordable back then, and a lot easier to arrange the time off.

Day 17 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: First time you heard that D&D was somehow evil

I think the first time I encountered the idea that D&D was "evil" was the infamous book, Mazes and Monsters, or possibly the less infamous, but similar book, Hobgoblin. I didn't run into either of these books until I was in college, after I had been playing for several years. (I somehow have avoided seeing the movie adaptation of Mazes and Monsters.) After I read those two books I began listening to the experiences of other gamers, and found out that the idea that D&D was "harmful" or "evil" was something that a lot of them had run afoul of at one point or another. This was new to me. When we started playing in high school, (and we actually played at school), we experienced none of this. People who thought it was weird, yes. People who thought it was evil, no. I think there was so little awareness of the hobby in the population at large, that it just didn't register on any level, for good or bad reasons.

Day 16 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: Do you remember your first edition war

I haven't participated in an Edition war. My group was usually happy to play whatever was available, at least until 3rd edition came out. By then, we weren't playing much D&D at all, so it didn't matter that most of us didn't care for it. We did play a 3rd edition game, but it kind of fizzled out due to lack of enthusiasm.

Day 15 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: What was the first edition of D&D you didn't enjoy

 (This didn't post yesterday for some reason, so here it is today.)

The first edition I really didn't enjoy was the 3rd edition. It was the first edition I didn't bother purchasing after I looked at it. I didn't care for the increased power levels and the fact that some of the character classes were relegated mainly to support positions.  (I'm looking at you, bard.) I really didn't like the concept of buffing. I thought it made everything play too much like a video game. (Which, of course, means I really didn't care for 4th edition.)  I won't go so far as to say these were bad games, but they weren't for me.

Day 14 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: Did you meet your significant other while playing D&D

Technically, I suppose my answer to this question should be "No". I did not meet my significant other while playing D&D. However, I did meet her because I played D&D. 

A few posts back, the topic was about the first store you bought your gaming supplies from. If you can remember the first time you walked into an actual game store, I'm sure you can recall how fantastic it was. (It was for me, anyway). Here was a place filled with games. Games you had never even heard of. Wargames! Roleplaying games! Dice! Miniatures! Painting supplies! The people in the store all shared your hobby. It was great. But my store held an additional attraction: The Girl Behind the Counter.

She was smart. She was funny. She was beautiful. And she played role playing games. I was instantly smitten. The only problem, I thought to myself, was that it was inconceivable that she wasn't already involved with someone.

Of course, I was right.  

And so, I waited. And shopped. For a long, long time.

While I waited, I got to know the individuals at the store. The employees, the regulars, even some of their children. I played games at the store. I ran games at the store. I brought my friends to the store. I bought a lot of product.  

During this time, The Girl Behind the Counter became the Assistant Manager and then the Manager of the store. We became friends. 

Then one day she was available, and for reasons I don't completely understand,  did not immediately shoot me down when I expressed my feelings for her.

We have been married for over 18 years at this point. We still game together once or twice a week with our friends. And I still don't completely understand how I lucked out.

Day 13 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: First miniatures you used for D&D

The very first miniatures I can remember using in a D&D game were a pack of Slimes & Jellies. They were part of Ral Partha's Children of the Night series. I remember that I chose them because I wasn't very confident in my painting abilities. They somewhat resembled pieces of slag, and I figured I couldn't do too much damage to them even with my inept skills. I was actually pleased with the end result, which is more than I can say for the players who had to face them in the next dungeon I ran.

Day 12 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: First store where you bought your gaming supplies

As I mentioned in a previous post, the very first place I ever bought gaming supplies from was the Sears mail order catalog. I bought the AD&D 1st edition Monster Manual, Player's Handbook, and Deities and Demigods books from there. It wasn't until college that I found an actual game store. At the start of my college career, the nearest game store was in a nearby town about 30 miles away. I looked up the address in the phone book and started on my way. Fortunately for me it was located in a part of town that I was somewhat familiar with. When I arrived, however, the store was gone! Unhappily, I started back to college. I had traveled less than a block when I happened to look to my right and saw it. "The Rusty Scabbard". As it turns out, the store had just finished moving around the corner only a few weeks before I had come looking for it.

It is fair to say that I bought the majority of my gaming supplies from the 'Scabbard from the early 80s through the early 2000s. The store is still in business, though with different owners than when I shopped there.

Day 11 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: First splatbook you begged your DM to approve

I don't think I ever used a splatbook in any version of D&D, let alone begged to be allowed to do so. The splatbooks didn't really appear until AD&D 2nd edition was well underway, and by then we had mostly drifted away from playing D&D.

Day 10 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: First gaming magazine you ever bought

The first gaming magazine I purchased was a Dragon magazine. I think it was issue #79, but I'm not positive. I did eventually go back and purchase a large number of previous issues over a period of years, and I kept buying Dragon magazines for a while even after I mostly stopped playing any version of D&D on a regular basis. I had a pretty good collection of them at one time.

Day 9 D&D 40th Anniversary Blog Hop: First campaign setting you played in

The first coherent game world I ever played in was a homebrew created by my friend Mike. Before that we just bounced from adventure to adventure without paying much attention to the game world as a whole. Mike created a world with a Hapsburg-like royal family that controlled most of the world. Whenever we ran into a king, high cleric, or powerful wizard, odds were that we were speaking to a member of this family. Some were good and some were evil. Many of our adventures revolved around helping or hindering these individuals. 

The first published campaign world I played in was Greyhawk, in college. Of course at the time, it was the only published game world.